Comments on: Adoption of Older Children http://www.lwbcommunity.org/adoption-of-older-children Love Without Boundaries Wed, 08 Feb 2012 18:54:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Brighter Futures: Lost Lovable Lewis | Child Adoption Guides http://www.lwbcommunity.org/adoption-of-older-children/comment-page-1#comment-19330 Brighter Futures: Lost Lovable Lewis | Child Adoption Guides Fri, 20 Jan 2012 05:26:34 +0000 http://www.lwbcommunity.org/?p=2837#comment-19330 [...] LWB Older Child Adoption [...] [...] LWB Older Child Adoption [...]

]]> By: Twilla Eden http://www.lwbcommunity.org/adoption-of-older-children/comment-page-1#comment-17468 Twilla Eden Fri, 28 Oct 2011 16:03:10 +0000 http://www.lwbcommunity.org/?p=2837#comment-17468 We have adopted three children in the last three yrs. Five mo. ago we brought home a little 8yr. old girl and one and a half yrs. ago, we brought home an 11yr. old boy both from China. Our first was a little boy nearly 2yrs. old from Vietnam! Our experience has been very POSITIVE with each child and we can't imagine our lives without any of them. Our most challenging has been our little 8yr. old girl. She has mild CP. She is just a sweetheart. She was never in school because of her abnormal gait. She is in PT, OT, and Speech Therapy, which keeps mamma very busy. We started her in the first grade and she was elated to go to school and is learning to read and her English is amazing as it was for all the children. Our 12yr. old son is in the 7th grade. He is the BEST big brother, an A&B student, plays trumpet and tuba, is a boy scout, an avid reader and a natural at sports. He just finished football and started basketball last wk. Our youngest is 5, very smart and creative and musical as well. They are very thoughtful and loving. We highly advocate for older children adoption!! I would love to encourage or visit with any one contemplating an older child adoption. We have adopted three children in the last three yrs. Five mo. ago we brought home a little 8yr. old girl and one and a half yrs. ago, we brought home an 11yr. old boy both from China. Our first was a little boy nearly 2yrs. old from Vietnam! Our experience has been very POSITIVE with each child and we can’t imagine our lives without any of them. Our most challenging has been our little 8yr. old girl. She has mild CP. She is just a sweetheart. She was never in school because of her abnormal gait. She is in PT, OT, and Speech Therapy, which keeps mamma very busy. We started her in the first grade and she was elated to go to school and is learning to read and her English is amazing as it was for all the children. Our 12yr. old son is in the 7th grade. He is the BEST big brother, an A&B student, plays trumpet and tuba, is a boy scout, an avid reader and a natural at sports. He just finished football and started basketball last wk. Our youngest is 5, very smart and creative and musical as well. They are very thoughtful and loving. We highly advocate for older children adoption!! I would love to encourage or visit with any one contemplating an older child adoption.

]]> By: Bev http://www.lwbcommunity.org/adoption-of-older-children/comment-page-1#comment-13901 Bev Thu, 14 Apr 2011 23:03:27 +0000 http://www.lwbcommunity.org/?p=2837#comment-13901 It's heartening to hear positive stories of older child adoption but it's not always a bed of roses and doesn't always have a happy ending. Many children who have been in long term foster care do not want to be adopted. If you are considering adopting a child over 10 years of age consider all possible outcomes, ask as many people as you can about their experience; no matter how prepared you are you don't know the child you are adopting and the paperwork may not be accurate. I would hate to put anyone off adopting any child: I adopted two and had two very different experiences: a child who had spent her life in the orphanage was a breeze in every way compared to her sister who had been in foster care. But I found the negatives were brushed under the carpet by all I spoke to and it was easy to believe that 'you can do it if your heart is in it'. This is not always true of anyone. I have nothing but admiration for those who adopt teenagers from any country but thank goodness it happens. BB It’s heartening to hear positive stories of older child adoption but it’s not always a bed of roses and doesn’t always have a happy ending. Many children who have been in long term foster care do not want to be adopted.
If you are considering adopting a child over 10 years of age consider all possible outcomes, ask as many people as you can about their experience; no matter how prepared you are you don’t know the child you are adopting and the paperwork may not be accurate. I would hate to put anyone off adopting any child: I adopted two and had two very different experiences: a child who had spent her life in the orphanage was a breeze in every way compared to her sister who had been in foster care. But I found the negatives were brushed under the carpet by all I spoke to and it was easy to believe that ‘you can do it if your heart is in it’. This is not always true of anyone.
I have nothing but admiration for those who adopt teenagers from any country but thank goodness it happens.
BB

]]> By: PandaMommium http://www.lwbcommunity.org/adoption-of-older-children/comment-page-1#comment-7017 PandaMommium Tue, 07 Sep 2010 14:28:16 +0000 http://www.lwbcommunity.org/?p=2837#comment-7017 Thank you for posting this Amy! We are about to start the adventure of older child adoption. There were many things you mentioned I didn't know. Thank you for posting this Amy! We are about to start the adventure of older child adoption. There were many things you mentioned I didn’t know.

]]> By: kydamans http://www.lwbcommunity.org/adoption-of-older-children/comment-page-1#comment-6607 kydamans Sun, 22 Aug 2010 02:26:13 +0000 http://www.lwbcommunity.org/?p=2837#comment-6607 We brought our second Chinese daughter home last September (2009). Her birth certificate claimed that she was 8, but dental and bone scans placed her at 6-6 1/2 years old. Of course we expected the typical challenges that come with an older child adoption, but I can honestly say that Nina's adjustment has been nothing short of miraculous! We adopted our Emma as a baby, and it was a wonderful, amazing experience. But there is something so blessed when the child is able to anticipate and understand the exciting changes that are going to happen in his/her life. I would do it again 100 time over! Please feel free to review our blog if you are thinking about bringing an older child into your family. We brought our second Chinese daughter home last September (2009). Her birth certificate claimed that she was 8, but dental and bone scans placed her at 6-6 1/2 years old. Of course we expected the typical challenges that come with an older child adoption, but I can honestly say that Nina’s adjustment has been nothing short of miraculous! We adopted our Emma as a baby, and it was a wonderful, amazing experience. But there is something so blessed when the child is able to anticipate and understand the exciting changes that are going to happen in his/her life. I would do it again 100 time over! Please feel free to review our blog if you are thinking about bringing an older child into your family.

]]> By: karen in mt http://www.lwbcommunity.org/adoption-of-older-children/comment-page-1#comment-6108 karen in mt Sat, 07 Aug 2010 15:04:59 +0000 http://www.lwbcommunity.org/?p=2837#comment-6108 We adopted a 6 1/2 yr old, 17 months ago. It has been nothing short of amazing. She has done very well. A few minor melt downs when she did not get her way, but that is all. We will soon be adopting an almost 12 yr old. Karen59901@msn.com if you have any questions. We adopted a 6 1/2 yr old, 17 months ago. It has been nothing short of amazing. She has done very well. A few minor melt downs when she did not get her way, but that is all. We will soon be adopting an almost 12 yr old. Karen59901@msn.com if you have any questions.

]]> By: Sammy http://www.lwbcommunity.org/adoption-of-older-children/comment-page-1#comment-2746 Sammy Sun, 21 Mar 2010 21:04:40 +0000 http://www.lwbcommunity.org/?p=2837#comment-2746 We adopted a girl that was almost 12 y.o. Arden. It is a very harsh life for orphans. They don't have enough food, love, medical care etc... They are second class people there. Arden will now tell you "I not the same girl." She is so wonderful we are on our way back to adopt two more older orphans. We thank God and China for these wonderful kids in our lives. We adopted a girl that was almost 12 y.o. Arden. It is a very harsh life for orphans. They don’t have enough food, love, medical care etc… They are second class people there. Arden will now tell you “I not the same girl.” She is so wonderful we are on our way back to adopt two more older orphans. We thank God and China for these wonderful kids in our lives.

]]> By: roomforatleastonemore http://www.lwbcommunity.org/adoption-of-older-children/comment-page-1#comment-2678 roomforatleastonemore Mon, 08 Mar 2010 22:30:00 +0000 http://www.lwbcommunity.org/?p=2837#comment-2678 We are adopting an older child. He turned 10 years old in December, and we hope to be traveling in April to bring him home. Just two more steps to go: Article 5 and TA. Thank you for a wonderful, informative post for those who may not understand older child adoption and the need for some to consider it. We are adopting an older child. He turned 10 years old in December, and we hope to be traveling in April to bring him home. Just two more steps to go: Article 5 and TA.

Thank you for a wonderful, informative post for those who may not understand older child adoption and the need for some to consider it.

]]> By: dbracker http://www.lwbcommunity.org/adoption-of-older-children/comment-page-1#comment-2676 dbracker Mon, 08 Mar 2010 19:39:08 +0000 http://www.lwbcommunity.org/?p=2837#comment-2676 We are first time parents of a wonderful teen from China who was adopted at the age of 13-3/4 years old. We've been a family for 2-1/2 years now and can't believe how our lives were changed for the better through the adoption of an older kiddo. Yes, we've had ups and downs and pretty much everywhere in between, but would not change one second of it. We'd be more than happy to chat with anyone considering older child adoption. We are not experts by any means, but have 'been there, done that' for many things over the past 2-1/2 years. If interested, please visit our blog at http://windingvines.blogspot.com . You can email us through a link on the right hand side of the blog. Best Wishes, Debbi, Kevin and Sarah We are first time parents of a wonderful teen from China who was adopted at the age of 13-3/4 years old. We’ve been a family for 2-1/2 years now and can’t believe how our lives were changed for the better through the adoption of an older kiddo. Yes, we’ve had ups and downs and pretty much everywhere in between, but would not change one second of it.

We’d be more than happy to chat with anyone considering older child adoption. We are not experts by any means, but have ‘been there, done that’ for many things over the past 2-1/2 years. If interested, please visit our blog at http://windingvines.blogspot.com . You can email us through a link on the right hand side of the blog.

Best Wishes,
Debbi, Kevin and Sarah

]]> By: chinalwb http://www.lwbcommunity.org/adoption-of-older-children/comment-page-1#comment-2671 chinalwb Fri, 05 Mar 2010 22:47:48 +0000 http://www.lwbcommunity.org/?p=2837#comment-2671 Thank you for your comments. We all hope that someday singles will be allowed to adopt again from China as there are so many children needing homes. Thank you for your comments. We all hope that someday singles will be allowed to adopt again from China as there are so many children needing homes.

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