Comments on: Older Child Adoption and the Education Dilemma

By: suznews40

suznews40 — Wed, 31 Mar 2010 05:59:06 +0000

I have also adopted 3 older children from China (after 6 bio kids). I also am a huge advocate for Older child adoption. My daughters were almost 9, almost 10 and one day from 14 at adoption. Each child’s needs in education have been and continue to be different. One was in school full time after one week. The others I homeschooled briefly (I never homeschooled my bio kids.) One who is 12, in 5th grade and has been here 3 1/2 years struggles more in school than the one who has only been here 2 years. It so depends on the child’s early years and experiences. May I add that older child adoption has had some wonderful experiences, but it is HARD. I think it is important and so crucial to the kids, but it is not easy and can be very frustrating and taxing at times. However, I still believe that in the long run (which may be a very VERY long run!) they are better off and I have hope that each of them will be able to make it against very difficult challenges that I certainly never had to face in my life. At least they have a chance anyway.

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By: Jan J.

Jan J. — Wed, 31 Mar 2010 04:08:14 +0000

This is a VERY wise post! My second China daughter was only 6.9 when I adopted her and despite much preparation I was unprepared for the upheaval in her life this adoption caused and the amount of time it took for her to function comfortably or begin to understand much aspects of education. If I did it again, I would not stress so much over her educational level and just try to relax and work more on social/cultural/family life with her. We homeschooled and after almost two years I figured out, after having her tested, she was very good at faking a lot of her work and didn’t really understand it. We had to start over at the beginning and this time she was able to get it and quickly began to gain until she caught up. She is 13 now and doing very well but she still has issues that I believe are related to her beginnings and being removed from a place she did not want to leave. It was the hardest thing I ever did but if I could do it again with another child, I would in a heartbeat!

By: HeatherKCS

HeatherKCS — Wed, 31 Mar 2010 01:33:30 +0000

Thank you for this timely post. My husband & I are awaiting travel approval to bring home our almost 12 year old daughter from China. We have two younger girls who are in preschool and Kindergarten so we are definitely all going to be jumping into a new educational arena. I am anxious a bit as to what kind of education program will work best and I suppose there are some advantages to bringing home our daughter close to summer vacation. I hope that family time before school begins again gives us time to understand what kind of educational environment will be right for her. I hear about those people whose kids want to get right into school and adapt well and even excel, but I’m reluctant to put think that our daughter will be that way. Too much pressure for her, too many expectations on our part!
Now I need to book an appointment with my local board of ed to discuss our options!

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